What Do You Have In Common With This Man’s Talk-show Guests?

April 18, 2011

What do you have in common with Jerry Springer’s talk-show guests?

The Jerry Springer show debuted in 1991. When the show first aired, his focus centered on political issues. But amid sagging ratings, the format was changed in 1994 to take advantage of the fact that there was a bigger appetite for sleazy entertainment.

To garner ever increasing ratings, he fed his audience a daily smorgasbord of contemptible behavior such as adultery, prostitution, transvestism, baby-momma drama, and a host of other socially unacceptable behavior. To cast the widest net, his staff brought in guests that tended to be young, disenfranchised individuals with minimal education. At some point in the show, his audience expected to witness the all too familiar on-stage brawl.

It is said that we are known by the company we keep. And who you CHOOSE to hang around says more about you than the other individuals with whom you associate…because where you spend your time reveals what you intend to do with your life.

Environment is everything. Certain environments are conducive to allowing you to see the endless possibilities that exist in the world. While others reveal nothing but barriers to success.

If you want to go anywhere in life and do anything noteworthy, you must pay particular attention to your environment and the people in it.

If you desire is to chase a dream that has reached its due date for delivery, there are times when you must make the tough decision to distance yourself from certain individuals who do not share your desire to reach for more in life. And don’t waste time trying to convince them of your hopes and ambitions because they will not celebrate where you’re headed.

Therefore, put yourself in atmospheres that will get you steps closer to achieving your aspirations, not further from them. And surround yourself with people who will cheer you on to victory, not those who will seek to pull you back into the barrel at the first glimpse of your moving away from mediocrity.

So, I ask in parting. What do you have in common with Jerry Springer’s guests?

From this point forward, hopefully nothing at all!

I would love to know your thoughts. Post your comments below!

Have You Reached The Tipping Point?

April 12, 2011

Before you can taste the exhilaration of widespread acclaim, you will feel the bitter sting of unmitigated anonymity.

The tipping point is critical to all success. It is the point where we teeter on the fence that separates obscurity from popularity. Getting to this point takes determined commitment and uninterrupted focus.


The loneliest leg of your journey on the road to discovery is that long stretch when you are just trying to get others to take notice of what you do. During this stage, trying to enlist the attention of others is as difficult as trying to roll a 500-lbs. boulder up a steep hill. It is here where, rather than charging for your product or service, you feel tempted to pay others simply to hear your message or try your particular product.

And this part of your travels, when you desperately pray to be able to cross the tipping point, has the most potential to cause you to thrown in the towel, believing that your dream is not worth to pursuit.

But I want to provide this cautionary note of advice…

The Bible warns that we should not despise the day of small beginnings. There is tremendous benefit in starting small and building up a head of steam. And there is good reason why comedians start their careers performing in small, unknown venues. It is far better to bomb before an audience of 100 folks than a packed 5000-seat auditorium.

The glare of fame is very unforgiving. Once the world takes notice of the priceless gift to humanity you are, little can you afford to be ill-prepared to meet the demands of that hour. By then all the bugs must be worked out and all the wrinkles ironed to smooth perfection. The quiet of obscurity is supposed to provide you the opportunity to ensure that such preparation, training, practice, and rehearsal have taken place.

When starting out in any venture, there are so many things you need to learn, and what you fail to identify and deal with during the foundation-building stages of your development will resurface later to undermine all aspects of your future success.

What you should walk away from this particular blog post understanding is this…

It is vital that you suffer the experience of loneliness prior to reaching the tipping point, when you are the only one on the path.  It is only during this time that the foundation of your success can be properly fortified with the right ingredients to allow you to withstand the pressures that accompany greatness.

Understand that once you cross over the tipping point, pushing boulders up hill will no longer be your problem.

Your challenge will then be trying to slow the pace of the massive success that grows without any effort on your part and which offers you no “me” moments.

So, despite how near or far you are from that tipping point moment, use your present obscurity to fine-tune those talents needed to perform like a pro once the glaring lights of fame begin to shine on you.

Would love to know your thoughts, so please leave your comments!



Are You Crippled By The Fallacy Of Social Proof…?

April 8, 2011

…when it comes to believing in the value of what you have to offer.

Social proof plays an important role in helping us to know how to act in situations where we have no prior information to draw upon to guide our decision making. Advertisers use the phenomenon of social proof all the time in their commercials when using famous celebrities to pitch new products. They know most people base their purchasing decisions on what well-known people purport to buy and use.

When it comes to YOU as the product, relying on social proof can be a crippling thing.

Launching a dream is a daunting task, in and of itself. Rest assured, self-doubt will be the first to arrive on the scene the moment you attempt the herculean task of lifting a mighty empire from the kingdom of the mind and setting it down firmly in society.

But the situation is made worse when we wait for the approval of others as an indication that our goals and dreams are worth the undertaking.  If you wait on others, namely family and friends, to get excited about your dream, you will never start the journey.

Have you ever tried to retell a funny joke that was side-splitting when you heard it, only to have the person say, “I don’t get it.” Your dream is that exact same way.

Others will never be able get it until they can see it for themselves.

Your dream offers a private viewing to you alone. Therefore, it is your responsibility to get excited about the screening of your future condition, because what your mind reveals is real indeed. And you must be the first to buy into that…long before anyone else does.

In the beginning, Walt Disney suffered a great deal of angst trying to convince others of his vision. And when no one else could envision what he saw, he chose to move forward, despite their doubts. Once he gave us the tangible proof of the empire in his mind, then and only then did millions climb on board with their endorsement.

So, my friend, you must believe in YOU when no one else does. And you must be committed to investing in your dream long before anyone else signs up to support you. Laugh and joke about the private viewing of your personal production. For a brief moment in time, you will be the only one to get it. But once you deliver the tangible proof of your excitement, they too will laugh and rejoice.

So, don’t allow social proof to determine when to set sail on your voyage. Be the first to believe in YOU.

Let me know your thoughts by leaving a comment!



Are You Fully Unwrapped?

April 4, 2011

NO, that’s not what I meant!  Please, keep your clothes on to read this.  🙂

As a gift to humanity, you came into this world fully complete, with a wealth of priceless treasures already inside you. Why not let those things finance your journey through life?

Understand that…

From the moment you were born, you entered a race to discover all the unique talents and abilities you inherited at birth. If you choose not to compete, you’ve already chosen to lose in this race called LIFE.

But unlike most gifts that are presented, it is left up to you (the gift itself) to unwrap yourself to learn all the valuable things you’ve been given to share with us. Therefore, it is completely up to you to probe and investigate your entire being to discover the priceless treasures of your mental and physical estate.

Your WORTH is fully self-contained within you. So, stop looking outside yourself to find self-worth and validation. Nothing outside you can offer those things.

Finding the sum total of your worth is much like going to the supermarket and shopping for the many items that make up your shopping list. God has invested in you so many different kinds of abilities, all in one grocery cart, that will ring up as PRICELESS upon checkout.

And He is looking to see what you do with what He’s given you.

Have you been passionate from your earliest recollections about …singing, dancing, writing, speaking, comforting, painting, drawing, encouraging, healing, cooking, baking, managing…etc. Your strong passions hint at your purpose. They are the trace clues that suggest where you should devote the bulk of your time and energies.

The bottom line is this. You are the sum total of your worth.


Your unique gifts, those that compliment your passions, are the ones you should hone to razor’s edge sharpness, as they are designed to aid you in constructing an empire based upon a blueprint in your heart. And when you use them to support your life’s mission, you will derive a measure of fulfillment that can be found no other way.

A full audit of your worth would prove impossible, as a final tally would reveal an owner’s equity surplus that can’t be determined in one lifetime. Think about how Walt Disney’s legacy continues to fund his estate long after his exit off the scene in 1966. If his empire is continually earning billions annually, when can we ever really put a final cap on his true worth?

Your uniqueness is supposed to bless you along your journey in life, not frustrate you. Embrace your passion and those gifts you’ve been given and they will reward you in return!

Just saying!

Would love to know your thought. So, please leave your valued comments.

Talk soon!